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Try looking on facebook for groups, and there is a site called meetup that you can find people with similar interests or situations to you, seems quite good, i have just joined so not been to any events yet but if you find groups you like it might be worth it, at least you will have something in common besides the migration factor.

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Been here over 2 years, went to a couple early on, but found I had little in common with most the people.

 

To put it bluntly, most the people were (as a massive stereotype, but not ment to offend) :-

Old, northern, labour voting, parents, manual Laborers, wanting to move to the UK with more sun and less immigrants, and moaning about the lack of mushy peas and the price of a pint.

 

Where I'm mid 30's, spent 20 years in the South East UK, no kids (and no interest in having them), IT contractor.

I'm not a moaner (that often), I just get on with it and I came (back) to Australia because I wanted to be IN Australia.

Have little to no interest in soccer (I don't want to play it, but I have a 'team' that I don't ever watch), prefer AFL. I was born here so support Australia in the rugby/cricket.

I don't want a BMW X5 (with a premiership team number plate), I drive a 4x4 ute.

 

So I had little overlap of life experiences, so nothing to really bond over. Nice people, but no hook.

 

But on the other side, I'm also a bit of an arse, highly sarcastic, very (very) opinionated and wont change that just to make friends.

I also don't live in a exPat hotspot, so the meets are usually a distance away.

 

But I've met a few poms via forums (via the wife who makes me go) who I genuinely like though. But there needs to be *something* in common to talk about over that beer.

I should really put more of an effort in though, and see them more often.

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Anyone would think you got out of bed the wrong side this morning :tongue:

 

Wasn't ment to come across like that. But I was just trying to say that going to a meet is not a 'Guarantee of friendships'.

 

When all you've got in common is you were once on a small island miles away, and now your are on a big island here, it's hard to meet people you'll bond with.

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I agree, however when you first arrive its nice to meet people in the same situation as you just to have a shared experience. Family and friends back 'home' have no idea what you are going through so cant really relate. Whether these initial contacts lead to long term friendships is irrelevant, its just nice to meet others at the start of your journey. And who knows, contacts can be made and knowledge gained too. Someone recently advised me to say yes to every invite even if you dont want to really. You make contacts, meet others and from there you can choose if you want to continue or end some friendships along the line.

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Try looking on facebook for groups, and there is a site called meetup that you can find people with similar interests or situations to you, seems quite good, i have just joined so not been to any events yet but if you find groups you like it might be worth it, at least you will have something in common besides the migration factor.

 

I started a Meetup group to try to network with locals with similar interests but just found that most people were swingers or singles looking for a date.

I've a lifetime subscription now :wink:

 

Been here over 2 years, went to a couple early on, but found I had little in common with most the people.

 

To put it bluntly, most the people were (as a massive stereotype, but not ment to offend) :-

Old, northern, labour voting, parents, manual Laborers, wanting to move to the UK with more sun and less immigrants, and moaning about the lack of mushy peas and the price of a pint.

 

Where I'm mid 30's, spent 20 years in the South East UK, no kids (and no interest in having them), IT contractor.

I'm not a moaner (that often), I just get on with it and I came (back) to Australia because I wanted to be IN Australia.

Have little to no interest in soccer (I don't want to play it, but I have a 'team' that I don't ever watch), prefer AFL. I was born here so support Australia in the rugby/cricket.

I don't want a BMW X5 (with a premiership team number plate), I drive a 4x4 ute.

 

So I had little overlap of life experiences, so nothing to really bond over. Nice people, but no hook.

 

But on the other side, I'm also a bit of an arse, highly sarcastic, very (very) opinionated and wont change that just to make friends.

I also don't live in a exPat hotspot, so the meets are usually a distance away.

 

But I've met a few poms via forums (via the wife who makes me go) who I genuinely like though. But there needs to be *something* in common to talk about over that beer.

I should really put more of an effort in though, and see them more often.

 

This^ oh, so this. :biglaugh:

I've spent most of my life not fitting in and it took me a long time to realise that's okay.

I'm not good in social situations especially if I don't know anyone but there are a number of people on here I'd like to meet because I find them interesting.

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I started a Meetup group to try to network with locals with similar interests but just found that most people were swingers or singles looking for a date.

I've a lifetime subscription now :wink:

 

...tart...!

 

 

 

This^ oh, so this. :biglaugh:

I've spent most of my life not fitting in and it took me a long time to realise that's okay.

I'm not good in social situations especially if I don't know anyone but there are a number of people on here I'd like to meet because I find them interesting.

 

:wacko:....

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I started a Meetup group to try to network with locals with similar interests but just found that most people were swingers or singles looking for a date.

I've a lifetime subscription now :wink:

 

 

 

This^ oh, so this. :biglaugh:

I've spent most of my life not fitting in and it took me a long time to realise that's okay.

I'm not good in social situations especially if I don't know anyone but there are a number of people on here I'd like to meet because I find them interesting.

 

I'm not putting my car keys into a bowl before anyone suggests it

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Thanks for all of your replies people. Bibbs you have a point, i'm definitely not looking for Little Britain but just to touch base on landing might be good but i'm quite outgoing anyway

so i'm sure i'll be out and about in no time.

I might check out some of the groups that others (Lozzachino) have mentioned but not sure i'll have a car so soon and be able to throw the keys in any bowl :wideeyed:

 

Thanks again everyone.

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Glad I'm not the only one to feel like that!

 

If there are any city working, mid-30s males, who like V8SC, AFL, heavy metal, swiss watches, drinking, xbox, sportscars & offroading, who live near the city and fancy a beer or three at 15:30 onwards in the CBD on a Friday. Drop me a PM.

 

Oh, just me?

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How very 1990's :tongue:

 

"iMessage" then .. or whatever the bollocks Apple have named it.

 

Anyway, shoosh or I'll Tumblr your Facebook with my Instagram or whatever the hipster kids call it now days (reminds me, must dig out my skinny jeans and deck shoes).

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