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I've had a week checking out Perth and really liked it. The chilled laid back lifestyle and for me a good opportunity is great. My wife and kids are supportive of the move but I'm stressed about telling my parents when I come back! My dad loves seeing his grandchildren and he will be devastated. So I'm expecting major tears etc. at least they can afford to visit.

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thats funny, where about in fife are they? my hubby is from Helston and we are off down there in 2 weeks for a visit. not sure what we'll say if the australia subject comes up, we dont want them to know we have carried on with the process but also dont want to lie if they ask.

Dunfirmline and rosyth.

best of luck with your visit :0)

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Dunfirmline and rosyth. best of luck with your visit :0)

 

The bar maid in the Whale and Ale in Clarkson is from Fife. Just thought that I would throw that in....

 

And so am I. In fact I am here now on my annual trip back. Do you not recognise the photo below my handle? You must have been along the Fife coast surely on your trips up here? It is in Lower Largo, the home of Alexander Selkirk, the true life Robinson Crusoe.

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The bar maid in the Whale and Ale in Clarkson is from Fife. Just thought that I would throw that in....

 

And so am I. In fact I am here now on my annual trip back. Do you not recognise the photo below my handle? You must have been along the Fife coast surely on your trips up here? It is in Lower Largo, the home of Alexander Selkirk, the true life Robinson Crusoe.

 

yes I recognise the picture, its the pub accross from the Crusoe hotel! We are in Ceres so not far from Largo at all :rolleyes:

 

how long have you been back, we had summer in June so did you miss it? :laugh:

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yes I recognise the picture, its the pub accross from the Crusoe hotel! We are in Ceres so not far from Largo at all :rolleyes: how long have you been back, we had summer in June so did you miss it? :laugh:

 

Just over the hill. I drove through Ceres on Monday. I was back on 1st June and so have had a fine time. The weather has been great this year. Remember last summer? Back in Perth for 1st October.

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When I leave from the airport I go straight through customs and into the lounges no matter how early I am for the plane. What I do not do is sit with a family of folk waiting to say goodbye to me for an hour or so. You see it all the time in aiports. Hoards of family members saying goodbye to one or two folk. There is nothing worse than sitting, fidgeting with a cup of coffee, not saying much, trying to keep it together and just waiting for the final few minutes of hell. Think how bad it is now and then think of that. My advice would be to anyone who can do it is to make it a quick exit in the airport or go alone of possible. Sorry but that is the next thing you all have to handle so best to know your options.

 

We're banning everyone from the airport - we've even booked a hotel at Heathrow the night before so they can't suggest the waving off at security idea. We've also used the argument that if someone drops us off they'll want to bring a plus one and there won't be room for four of us plus 80kgs of luggage in the car. So we've booked a taxi!

 

I now it's horrible for everyone but in a way it's nice to hear we're not alone with family issues! My MIL is definitely working her way through the 7 stages of grief. We've had the shock, guilt and anger. It's gone quite quiet and she has been ok the last few times we've seen her so hoping she may have skipped depression and is getting used to the idea!

 

Still not looking forward to Christmas though - I'm not sure there's going to be that much goodwill for all and happy spirits!

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I now it's horrible for everyone but in a way it's nice to hear we're not alone with family issues!

 

The good news I have had no family issues or problems that some of you seem to be facing or will have to face. All sounds horrendous. I just like to get to the airports early so that the folk who take me there can bugger off quickly back to the house to watch telly, I can then get through check in and customs smartish to sit and read my paper and enjoy a few pints in peace and quiet!! :wink: Everyones a winner :wink:

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I've been close to tears reading this thread! I'm dreading leaving everyone, and the reactions when we eventually get the visa! We've just done our medicals family have known about the plan to go to Oz for quite a while my parents just ignore it and don't want to deal with it until we get the visa and are going I guess, my mothers in law (that is mil and her sis who never had kids so thinks my hubby and his bro are hers! Also thinks our kids are her grandkids and can try and muscle in on time my actual mil spends with them which is really annoying! ) basically treat us like we've told them that we all have a fatal illness! We've told everyone it's just temporary till the situation in Ireland picks up but if it gies well we've no intentions of coming back!

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Hi Guys, myself hubby and 2 kids are making the move in just under 4 weeks time, same situation as some, told hubbys family over 2 years ago about our plans to move to perth, they don't like talking about it! Made it very difficult for my hubby to carry on the the process of applying as they were so unsupportive, even though they like to tell us now how much they encouraged us, total joke. They hardly lifted a finger to help when we had to move out of our house or pack up the shipment, think they need to realise how selfish they are being sometimes. MIL threw a newspaper in my face a few months ago saying 'look there's someone else been murdered in Australia, do you really wanna take my grandchildren there' I realise it is hard for them but it is hard for us too and they are making it even harder! We are also from Ireland and my hubby just cannot get work so I know we are doing the right thing, he has been offered a job already with 2 different companies in Perth, we need to make a better life for our children.

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  • 2 weeks later...

I had a really tough week telling my parents. They told me that I had broken up the family, who would care for them in their old age, who would visit their graves etc! So I had extreme levels of stress. I've stuck to my guns. So they are slowly accepting my decision and planning trips already to see me. Hopefully this week is better!

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It's not so much my mil as she has said she's coming with us and has already submitted her contributory parent application but my parents are struggling with the idea. On one hand Dad has helped is spruce up the garden ready for the house to be sold and then they get on a downer about us going and my mum keeps crying all the time.

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I'm with the other posters - DO NOT do an airport goodbye, it's going to be difficult for all. Say goodbye to family In their familiar surroundings so they can/have to get on with normal life ASAP without stewing on a car journey home.

And for yourselves, book an airport hotel for the night before. Give yourselves the chance to get excited about your new life and let those left behind get on with theirs ;-)

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We're banning everyone from the airport - we've even booked a hotel at Heathrow the night before so they can't suggest the waving off at security idea. We've also used the argument that if someone drops us off they'll want to bring a plus one and there won't be room for four of us plus 80kgs of luggage in the car. So we've booked a taxi!

 

I now it's horrible for everyone but in a way it's nice to hear we're not alone with family issues! My MIL is definitely working her way through the 7 stages of grief. We've had the shock, guilt and anger. It's gone quite quiet and she has been ok the last few times we've seen her so hoping she may have skipped depression and is getting used to the idea!

 

Still not looking forward to Christmas though - I'm not sure there's going to be that much goodwill for all and happy spirits!

Snap! We've also booked hotel for night before and asked by hubby brother-in-law to run us up in his 5seater transporter van (no room for extras). Good byes at the house, then leg it!! When do you leave ?

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hi harriet,

 

id also like to know the answer to this one !!

 

yesterday my sister said shes just getting her head around it, but we told her at the beginning of june, I don't think ive thought too much about who we are leaving behind as we are not that close to my family, only my mum, and shes ok about things, and if shes not then shes keeping it to herself !

 

my family seem to be having lots of do's since ive told them, which is quite nice,

 

our original plan was to go in 2 years time, but we are now thinking we will be going as soon as the visa is through, but havnt told anyone that yet :-/

our main reason to go in 2 years was so that we could save enough money but if scott has a good job and we have a it of money then we may just go for it !

 

jo. x

 

I left the UK 7 years ago to go to work in the USA. My Dad was proud, my Mum was gutted. In August 11 we told them we had applied for Oz and they were very happy about it. Once people get their head around the idea, it becomes easier for them. One of the best ways of keeping in touch is via Skype or FaceTime. We have regular calls with all our family, friends in the USA and UK, so you don't really lose touch or the visual reality. We arrived in Perth in Feb 13 and once over the first 6 months and the shock of how expensive it is here, you should be fine. We miss our friends and family, but we have learnt that the good friends you make become your new family and the people you left behind will still be there for you should you need them.

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Snap! We've also booked hotel for night before and asked by hubby brother-in-law to run us up in his 5seater transporter van (no room for extras). Good byes at the house, then leg it!! When do you leave ?

 

Hi Harriet,

 

We leave on 6th Jan!

 

Can't say that I'm looking forward to Xmas though. We've said that we'll host to save the politics of deciding who gets to see us on "the last Xmas day" but I can already see it being a nightmare day of walking on eggshells in case we upset someone! I might just grab a bottle of red and hide somewhere!

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Hi Harriet,

 

We leave on 6th Jan!

 

Can't say that I'm looking forward to Xmas though. We've said that we'll host to save the politics of deciding who gets to see us on "the last Xmas day" but I can already see it being a nightmare day of walking on eggshells in case we upset someone! I might just grab a bottle of red and hide somewhere!

 

 

hi nicci,

 

im dreading the last xmas, fingers crossed ours will be the following one !!

 

bottle of red and hiding sounds like a good plan !

 

jo. xx

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