odies Posted May 21, 2014 Report Share Posted May 21, 2014 That is so sad VS , facebook has a lot to answer for. hugs x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beandownunder Posted May 21, 2014 Author Report Share Posted May 21, 2014 So sorry to read your news J! It's so upsetting. I've lost double digits in close friends and family to the big C in the last 3 years...it was one of the reasons we decided to make a change and experience Australia rather than keep going round and round on the same old hamster wheel. I'm dreading more bad news whilst in Oz... Sending lots of hugs and kisses OXOXOXO thanks Lou, it's not cancer but it is terminal all the same :'-( xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
7cdb Posted May 21, 2014 Report Share Posted May 21, 2014 So sorry to read your news J! It's so upsetting. I've lost double digits in close friends and family to the big C in the last 3 years...it was one of the reasons we decided to make a change and experience Australia rather than keep going round and round on the same old hamster wheel. I'm dreading more bad news whilst in Oz... Sending lots of hugs and kisses OXOXOXO bean,sorry to hear your news life is very short. VS not good feel for you. just to lighten things a little Lou what have OXO cubes got to do with anything ? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest6235 Posted May 21, 2014 Report Share Posted May 21, 2014 Sorry to hear your news bean and vs. One way I try and comfort myself when I leave my 76 year old parents behind is that I will get the chance to say a proper goodbye to them, this is something you probably wouldn't get a chance to do living your normal everyday life if still in the same city/country as them in the UK, especially if it's a sudden death. I know my older brothers are still in the same area as them if they have trouble or else I probably wouldn't leave if I was the only son/child. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
portlaunay Posted May 21, 2014 Report Share Posted May 21, 2014 mixed emotions again today, found out that a very close relative has a terminal illness and has a few weeks at most :'-(how would I feel if I found this out and was in Australia? I asked OH if this situation makes him feel like not going but he said its just one of those things we need to face before we leave. feeling a bit teary today..... But you're not yet in Australia and you hopefully have a wonderful opportunity to spend some time with her and say all the things you should say, tell her how you feel, embrace her with warmth and love and for the two of you to treasure a brief moment in time. So sorry to hear your news but take some comfort in knowing that it is something most expats have to face at some point so your fears are shared by many others. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kibanje Posted May 22, 2014 Report Share Posted May 22, 2014 Know that feeling well. We now have our visa and though I was super excited when it came through there was also a little niggle at the back of my mind saying 'bl**dy h*ll we are off to Oz - what are we thinking!). So looking forward to it but keep procrastinating about handing in my notice and also booking the flights but just need to get on a do it! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beandownunder Posted May 22, 2014 Author Report Share Posted May 22, 2014 But you're not yet in Australia and you hopefully have a wonderful opportunity to spend some time with her and say all the things you should say, tell her how you feel, embrace her with warmth and love and for the two of you to treasure a brief moment in time. So sorry to hear your news but take some comfort in knowing that it is something most expats have to face at some point so your fears are shared by many others. Thanks for your kind words, I've just been to see her and am in a state of shock- she can't possibly have long left, such a waste at least, as you say I'm here to see her at the moment xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jac2011 Posted May 23, 2014 Report Share Posted May 23, 2014 Oh Bean, I understand how you are feeling. My auntie got told in October and we were close, she died in March. In a way, she was able to spend so much time with her children and grandchildren, went to Halloween parties, had an amazing Christmas and had so much support (apart from her husband walking out on her the day she got her terminal lung cancer diagnosis) that when she passed, unexpectedly in March from a short spell of illness I felt calm rather than upset. She could have suffered so much more and I felt the anger and the torment was more for her whilst she was alive. I don't know how I would feel in that situation so to know she passed peacefully felt nice. Life will throw us all ups and downs, we don't live forever and we all have to live our lives in the short space we have. xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beandownunder Posted May 23, 2014 Author Report Share Posted May 23, 2014 Oh Bean, I understand how you are feeling. My auntie got told in October and we were close, she died in March. In a way, she was able to spend so much time with her children and grandchildren, went to Halloween parties, had an amazing Christmas and had so much support (apart from her husband walking out on her the day she got her terminal lung cancer diagnosis) that when she passed, unexpectedly in March from a short spell of illness I felt calm rather than upset. She could have suffered so much more and I felt the anger and the torment was more for her whilst she was alive. I don't know how I would feel in that situation so to know she passed peacefully felt nice. Life will throw us all ups and downs, we don't live forever and we all have to live our lives in the short space we have. xx thanks Jac, I appreciate the support. if anything it's now making me more determined to get on with our plans for emigrating. as you say life is short and we need to spend the time wisely. it's time to start nagging my hubby to get the job hunt started.... J xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JenPen Posted May 23, 2014 Report Share Posted May 23, 2014 Oh J!!! How have I missed this!? I'm sooooo sorry that you're going through this! You know my wobbles it went through the other day. Massive hugs darl and if you need to chat you know how to get me ? We need to both be more determined we will get there and life is too short......we will support each other through these tough moments we will no doubt endure along the way xxxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lou8670 Posted May 23, 2014 Report Share Posted May 23, 2014 bean,sorry to hear your news life is very short. VS not good feel for you. just to lighten things a little Lou what have OXO cubes got to do with anything ? Sorry...it's my daughters code for hugs "O" and kisses "X" ! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phantasm139 Posted June 6, 2014 Report Share Posted June 6, 2014 Bean, I kind of know how you feel. We fly out on the 6th August, i am an only child and lost my Dad and Aunt either side of Xmas. I feel for my mom so much as i am leaving and taking her only grandchildren 9000 miles away. I am having the severe wobbles of late and at times it stops me getting excited, however when i feel i should not be going i just can't simply say no to the job offer as i know this will never happen again. I try to take the positive that if this had happened whilst i was away then i don't know how we would have coped. For us we just know we have to give it a try, and if it don't work out we come back. :-) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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