JenPen Posted January 5, 2014 Report Share Posted January 5, 2014 We are all moving…..moving in with our parents so we can save for the BIG move!!! Mr JP was going to move to OZ and work on his 2nd yr entitlement WHV but I just can't let him. I would miss him too much if it ended up being longer than 5 months it would be horrendous and 5 months would be hard. People do it all the time in other aspects of life but if we have the choice I just can't let him go. The children would miss him so much and he them. Anyway, so we have decided as he has security of a job here and regular income we could save money by moving in with our parents….Me and the kids with mine and him with his….they all live in small flats or terraced houses so it is going to be a squeeeeeze. Anyone else downsized/moved in with family/friends to save - how did you survive? haha! Be easier if we just won the lottery Save save save save save…..just keep swimming and hopefully we will end up in OZ ha! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Roadhouse Posted January 5, 2014 Report Share Posted January 5, 2014 Hi Jen! dont worry too much haha, me my husband and two kids have been living in with my parents since July now and flights over to oz aren't until 29th July this year,so that will be a whopping full year at a squash. and you know, it's been great!!! Teas on table for us finished work, ironing done and on the bed, homework for the kids helped by grandma and grandad, it goes on!! Plus you've got to think you are taking yourselves and your kids away from your/his parents and its lovely for them to get real close before you go and spend valuable time with you all. Dont get me wrong there is the times when it's like "I don't roast my joints that way,its this way" or " yes, to the kids when I've already said no",,again that list goes on too. But they are doing you a favour so gotta kinda bite your tonge. We done the move to save money too and it's been a winner, you do save a lot and get to do the good things you wanna do in England before you leave to instead of save save save and no play. wish you look. Just think " keep calm and save hard":laugh: joanne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
odies Posted January 5, 2014 Report Share Posted January 5, 2014 lovely post roadhouse as I have been one of those parents... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JenPen Posted January 5, 2014 Author Report Share Posted January 5, 2014 Thank you Roadhouse, a lovely post….I am so happy to hear it has gone well. It seems so odd to be moving back in but I think it is for the right reasons and like you say it will be lovely for all to spend some quality time with each other before moving so far away. The cleaning and cooking halved and have the option of going out if any of us want to get some alone time. We won't have the same positives as you nor as many, but I am sure it will all be weighed up into a positive, if it ends up in OZ then it sure is. I do worry about the children and the Yes when I said No but I also think with all the stress going on it will make everything a lot easier because I can just leave the house and go for a run and my parents will be there with the children haha! We will be there for a year too I would imagine maybe 11 months but no less. I bet the end is so near yet so far for you at the moment. Odies - How was it for you being on the other end? I would love to hear from that perspective so I can be more empathetic towards our parents….x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Roadhouse Posted January 5, 2014 Report Share Posted January 5, 2014 Yes Jen, seems so far away, yet only 205 sleeps heehee(yes,counting!!!) one big thing that helped me chill out was when I realised that there was more hands to help me, not more eyes on the kids behaviour and our ways of living. As I originally thought and panicked about literally everything.kids being noisy, being too long in the bathroom, just being in the way basically. But then I realised accepting the extra help available was much easier than trying to do everything on our own. The only thing, we are getting too used to it and no it will make the move a lot harder now that we are big parts of each others lives. I was close before but very close now .think it will get me quite tearful when I'm feeling lonely in oz. so for me that is the only hard thing about moving in. What part of perth are you hoping to move to? x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JenPen Posted January 5, 2014 Author Report Share Posted January 5, 2014 hahaha counting down the sleeps indeed - I will definitely be doing that when we get a date! What do you guys do for work? How old are the kiddies? (PM if you'd rather) We have just been talking even more about it and how I think it is going to be so hard….my parents house it literally tiny and I am so worried it won't work, there os so much clutter and I am just panicking and I am soooo close to them too and it would be making it harder on me I think, so I understand that point you made - it must be the hardest thing now. IT will be ok though - thank goodness for Skype etc. So instead of splitting up I think we might all try and move in with my Mother-in-law. She is less interfering, controlling and will discipline the children if needed. There is more space and she will just let us get on with it and I think better for me as less emotion in it all. We haven't decided 100% on areas yet but from my research and being there we preferred NOR and really like Quinns Rocks area so FX but we do like all the way down right into Subiaco and surroundings (oh wishful thinking) but also if we were SOR we liked Leeming. So I guess it depends on where I get work really as Mr JP can move about. I have never been THAT SOR before is it lovely? Obviously you think so as moving there but what is it like in comparison? It would be nice to catch up over there once we are through it all, war wounds and all xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Roadhouse Posted January 5, 2014 Report Share Posted January 5, 2014 Yes it would. Not too far to perth city for coffees for both really. SOR just seems amazing tho never been but def the place for us after a lot of thought. And can always move if down once there.its all a guessing game as to where to live as until you get there and live among,then you'll never no eh. Lee my hubby is a QS , so hopefully when he finds work I won't need to for a while till the kids settle. I'm a hairdresser but wouldn't mind doing other work part time for a while if need be. Kids, girl 9, boy 4. Both super excited to meet kangaroos and go surfing etc lol, not so keen on the thought of creepiest ,nor me!! I'm sure when you get more sorted at home you will feel better about the move and emotions. Ya kinda except the fact your guna do it and its what you need for your family to give them a good way of life. (I no I wish my mam had done it for me!!!) (some reason my pm not sending to you ) joanne x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
odies Posted January 5, 2014 Report Share Posted January 5, 2014 well here goes, the mess and the noise was horrendous .The being upside down and what was on the tv. The ELEPHANT in the room never spoke about the move as I got to upset. The cooking ,washing etc etc. running around like a headless chicken to make sure they were comfortable, everything I said being thought different than the way I said or meant it. BUT I would not have had it any other way would have been more upset if they hadn't stayed with us. The house became empty ,the sleepless nights ,the longing,the wondering what was wrong with the UK,the why's. You will do anything to make your children happy and have the best life they can have , remember your children will grow up too and have different views /ideas than you. 8 years later too many visits we look forward to our new life as we retire. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jo and scott Posted May 15, 2014 Report Share Posted May 15, 2014 hello, i dont know how i missed this post about living with the in laws !! we live with scotts mum, its a squeeze, the girls have had enough but we still do not expect to arrive in oz until sept 2015, id like to arrive before lauren has to start senior school, she is in year 5 at the mo, so not long. scott has passed his ielts and just waiting for him to sort references out, he printed them yesterday, he just needs to find a solicitor to sign / witness then, and then he can book skills test. is you are still living with your in laws, how is it going ? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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