cocolevi Posted June 20, 2014 Report Share Posted June 20, 2014 Ahh bless him no wonder he's been so down, hopefully the novelty of him being new will wear off soon so he can start to enjoy school as Odies said lots of love to him x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arwen Posted June 20, 2014 Report Share Posted June 20, 2014 Lou8670 said: Well we delved more and found out there is a boy in his class who's teachers pet, good at everything but he keeps putting my son down at every opportunity. I suspect it's because the attention has been on my boy over the last few weeks, with him being the new boy, and there's a little bit of jealousy. The school doesn't have a lot of new kids start mid year because there's waiting lists for places. I've explained to him what this boy is trying to do and that he needs to think of ways of dealing with the various situations he's described to me. Unfortunately people put other people down all the time and if he learns to deal with it now he'll have learnt a life skill. Sorry your son has had to deal with this but wanted to say that your attitude to the issue is refreshing. Too often we want to dive in and solve it all for our children but we need to teach them that not everyone is nice, they won't always win etc. It develops resilience which is a tool that we take through life with us into adulthood. I fear sometimes we are breeding a generation of namby pamby kids. Hope it's all sorted soon for him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lou8670 Posted June 20, 2014 Author Report Share Posted June 20, 2014 Thanks all. He tends to take it to heart when people say nasty things...a bit like me; too sensitive! But he needs to let it wash over him and not care and/or prepare what he will say to them to shut then up without being aggressive or nasty back. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Deb Posted June 20, 2014 Report Share Posted June 20, 2014 Really feel for you its so hard when they are upset.its bad enought for us getting home sick.Hopefully when my Granddaughter comes out next year I will be able to get him to help her out because I know she will be the same.Hope it gets easier. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hopeful Posted June 21, 2014 Report Share Posted June 21, 2014 Feel for you Lou but so admire you for building his way to see things from the perspective of the other child's own lack of confidence driving his behaviour. Great he's talking to you about it though and able to express how it's made him feel, so often kids try to hide it only to surface at a later date and having had more impact. Hope you re ok though coz you ll prob be feeling it as much if not more than him. Important to ensure you re ok and he will be fine xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lou8670 Posted June 22, 2014 Author Report Share Posted June 22, 2014 Tbh I'm not great today. He's ok but I'm suffering with a severe bout of homesickness. Missing people, friends, family, places...missing my favourite beach, pottering around town, running in the countryside smelling the trees and flowers, meeting my swimming buddies for sea swims and coffee, being able to go out in the evening to the pub and other family friendly restaurants, surfing and playing with the kids in the rock pools, bumping into people I know, impromptu BBQs or drinks with the neighbours...FB isn't helping as I'm seeing all my buddies doing all of these things. Chin up!!! We're here now...it can only get better.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arwen Posted June 22, 2014 Report Share Posted June 22, 2014 Lou8670 said: Tbh I'm not great today. He's ok but I'm suffering with a severe bout of homesickness. Missing people, friends, family, places...missing my favourite beach, pottering around town, running in the countryside smelling the trees and flowers, meeting my swimming buddies for sea swims and coffee, being able to go out in the evening to the pub and other family friendly restaurants, surfing and playing with the kids in the rock pools, bumping into people I know, impromptu BBQs or drinks with the neighbours...FB isn't helping as I'm seeing all my buddies doing all of these things. Chin up!!! We're here now...it can only get better.... Quite normal feelings so try not to beat yourself up about them. I can't offer any advice a I didn't have these feelings, no family and friends and a nomadic life to blame for that. Hope you feel a little bit better soon. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lou8670 Posted June 22, 2014 Author Report Share Posted June 22, 2014 Arwen said: Quite normal feelings so try not to beat yourself up about them. I can't offer any advice a I didn't have these feelings, no family and friends and a nomadic life to blame for that. Hope you feel a little bit better soon. Thanks Arwen. We have an afternoon planned with friends...one of the few we've met since arriving so I'm sure I'll feel a lot better in a few hours and after a few glasses of wine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Deb Posted June 22, 2014 Report Share Posted June 22, 2014 Its so hard I find when I skype and see the kids doing new things it really gets to me.I love it here but need to make friends and get out more. Hope you have a good afternoon with your friends and feel a bit better after a few glasses of wine. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hopeful Posted June 22, 2014 Report Share Posted June 22, 2014 Lou8670 said: Tbh I'm not great today. He's ok but I'm suffering with a severe bout of homesickness. Missing people, friends, family, places...missing my favourite beach, pottering around town, running in the countryside smelling the trees and flowers, meeting my swimming buddies for sea swims and coffee, being able to go out in the evening to the pub and other family friendly restaurants, surfing and playing with the kids in the rock pools, bumping into people I know, impromptu BBQs or drinks with the neighbours...FB isn't helping as I'm seeing all my buddies doing all of these things. Chin up!!! We're here now...it can only get better.... Common theme through this Lou as you ll know and will be the same for us all is TIME- time for places to become familiar, time to choose where your favourite places are and time for new friendships to develop. You ve left old and are now in new and new doesn't have a history.......yet, but it will very soon. Sending you a big hug as just now that's prob what you need. Also I think, and I've yet to experience but will be doing soon, the first few weeks must be really busy getting sorted and when that's settled and you re into 'real life' again that's when you ll find that all the 'familiar' things you had are not there and you have to create new familiarity. Give yourself a break, give it time and enjoy creating a new life. Keep reminding yourself you had reason to think you would have a better life in Perth you left all that 'familiar' for a reason so have fun building your new one as you hoped it would look xx ps please remind me of this philosophical view when I'm saying the same in September!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sideshowdeb Posted June 22, 2014 Report Share Posted June 22, 2014 You've just touched on Rich's biggest worry and mine there Lou. He's said he thinks he's going to leave Facebook once we get to Perth, at least temporarily as he thinks there's a good chance it will make him homesick. All his friends use it to arrange their get togethers and seeing them making plans when we first get to Perth in the middle of the pub beer garden, BBQ and long bike ride season might be hard. Once he said that I started to wonder whether homesickness might be a bit contagious? I never had a moments doubt until I found out Ethan was having a hard time a couple of months ago and instantly my feelings changed. It passed, thankfully. We talked and he's feeling really positive about the move again but it's bound to make a big difference to how you feel when the people closest to you are homesick. I hope you're having/had a nice afternoon and thanks for sharing this. It's real food for thought and it really does help knowing what to expect, even when it's not all beaches and BBQs. Feel better soon, Deb x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
odies Posted June 22, 2014 Report Share Posted June 22, 2014 Thanks for sharing Lou, i do not know what to say but sending hugs and kisses xxxxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SJT Posted June 22, 2014 Report Share Posted June 22, 2014 Lou big hugs and cuddles. I'm having one of those weeks as well, so know how you feel. Have a laugh and large glass of wine this afternoon. See you soon. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jo and scott Posted June 22, 2014 Report Share Posted June 22, 2014 ahh big hugs to you lou and sjt, cant imagine the feeling of homesick. thinking of you both and hope your okay. xxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beandownunder Posted June 22, 2014 Report Share Posted June 22, 2014 jo and scott said: ahh big hugs to you lou and sjt, cant imagine the feeling of homesick. thinking of you both and hope your okay. xxx that is echoed from me too xxxxxx ((( ))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beandownunder Posted June 22, 2014 Report Share Posted June 22, 2014 Lou8670 said: Tbh I'm not great today. He's ok but I'm suffering with a severe bout of homesickness. Missing people, friends, family, places...missing my favourite beach, pottering around town, running in the countryside smelling the trees and flowers, meeting my swimming buddies for sea swims and coffee, being able to go out in the evening to the pub and other family friendly restaurants, surfing and playing with the kids in the rock pools, bumping into people I know, impromptu BBQs or drinks with the neighbours...FB isn't helping as I'm seeing all my buddies doing all of these things. Chin up!!! We're here now...it can only get better.... I dislike this post Lou :'-( xxxxxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SJT Posted June 22, 2014 Report Share Posted June 22, 2014 Lou I hope you are feeling better after your lovely afternoon with friends, Pete and I went out for lunch and I had passionfruit martini's, made me feel so much better. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lou8670 Posted June 23, 2014 Author Report Share Posted June 23, 2014 (edited) It got worse! I popped to the shops to pick up a few bits and queued behind a bogan family wearing sweatshirts emblazoned with "BOGAN"! I didn't initially see the funny side!!! Thank you for all your lovely messages of support. I knew I'd get homesick. Not everyone does...my OH isn't affected at all. Sending you big (((((hugs)))) SJT! I'm nursing a hang over this morning after a fab afternoon/ evening in great company. Too much wine, 3 great curries and my signature raspberry meringue roulade! Just what the doctor ordered! I missed the reveal on House Rules though...gutted! Edited June 23, 2014 by Lou8670 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nikkiwd Posted June 23, 2014 Report Share Posted June 23, 2014 sorry you are feeling like that Lou, I have fleeting moments like that (also looking Facebook), and I am kind of expecting it to get a bit worse once we are all settled in our new house and things calm down. It will take a bit of time to find replacements for the all the things we miss from home xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lancslass Posted July 11, 2014 Report Share Posted July 11, 2014 I really feel for you. Our 10 year old son is also very homesick and has been for the 6 years we have been here, our other 2 don't feel it at all. He misses the UK so much and on a trip back last year he was so happy to be there he cried when we had to return. Everybody is different it really doesn't matter what age you are if you feel a connection to somewhere that connection is hard to break, I suppose it's like a sense of belonging. He plays rugby, swims, lives for football and loves school so much. He has so many friends and we are always out and about doing things but he will always tell me how much he misses home and his family. I think the missing family is the hardest part for him, he was so close to his Grandparents and to be honest nothing can replace the love that Grandparents can give to their Grandkids. He only every has us and sometimes I think he would just love to be surrounded by his cousins, Aunties, Uncles etc, especially on his Birthday and at Christmas. I hope you both feel better soon, it is the hardest part of emigrating...the homesickness. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ROB T Posted July 11, 2014 Report Share Posted July 11, 2014 Lou8670 said: It got worse! I popped to the shops to pick up a few bits and queued behind a bogan family wearing sweatshirts emblazoned with "BOGAN"! I didn't initially see the funny side!!! Thank you for all your lovely messages of support. I knew I'd get homesick. Not everyone does...my OH isn't affected at all. Sending you big (((((hugs)))) SJT! I'm nursing a hang over this morning after a fab afternoon/ evening in great company. Too much wine, 3 great curries and my signature raspberry meringue roulade! Just what the doctor ordered! I missed the reveal on House Rules though...gutted! Blimey Lou 3 curries AND a raspberry meringue, jeeeesh!! You have some appetite...... Lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lou8670 Posted July 11, 2014 Author Report Share Posted July 11, 2014 ROB T said: Blimey Lou 3 curries AND a raspberry meringue, jeeeesh!! You have some appetite...... Lol And they were yummy too!!! I seem to create fantastic meals when I've have a few too many Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lou8670 Posted July 11, 2014 Author Report Share Posted July 11, 2014 lancslass said: I really feel for you. Our 10 year old son is also very homesick and has been for the 6 years we have been here, our other 2 don't feel it at all.He misses the UK so much and on a trip back last year he was so happy to be there he cried when we had to return. Everybody is different it really doesn't matter what age you are if you feel a connection to somewhere that connection is hard to break, I suppose it's like a sense of belonging. He plays rugby, swims, lives for football and loves school so much. He has so many friends and we are always out and about doing things but he will always tell me how much he misses home and his family. I think the missing family is the hardest part for him, he was so close to his Grandparents and to be honest nothing can replace the love that Grandparents can give to their Grandkids. He only every has us and sometimes I think he would just love to be surrounded by his cousins, Aunties, Uncles etc, especially on his Birthday and at Christmas. I hope you both feel better soon, it is the hardest part of emigrating...the homesickness. Thanks lamcslass! I hope he doesn't have home sickness forever but I think at least 3 of us in our family feel we have strong ties to Jersey. My OH and youngest son don't seem so bothered. My 10 year olds started to make some friends now and we have some play dates arranged over the holidays. Apparently he even now has a girlfriend Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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