Guest Archie's gang Posted March 27, 2012 Report Share Posted March 27, 2012 Hi myself, husband and daughter (Fiona, mark, Jodie 17) have recently moved to Perthin January, currently renting in stirling. but have been told by my daughter recently that she hates it here, it's boring and nothing for her and that once she finishes her course she will go back to the uk. I am at my wits end what to do she goes to Tuarte college which she hates and says they are "all wierd" so not made any friends, I have suggested to go onto a forum but for a teenager that's not cool. So any advice or help from other 17+ teenagers would be really appreciated, anything I suggest is a no no and being a mum you want your kids to be happy. Fiona Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sal Posted March 27, 2012 Report Share Posted March 27, 2012 where are you living and what course is she doing? There may be better options for her. Also 3 months in is always a down time - the initial excitement and being on holiday feel goes and you realise you are here for a long time. It gets better! How about a part time job somewhere? Can you encourage any of her friends to visit? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest archies gang Posted March 27, 2012 Report Share Posted March 27, 2012 hi sal we are currantly renting in stirling, she is doing english (which she hates and did even in the uk, but has to do), media studies, psycology and maths. she was not the happiest of bunnies when we come out which is what we exspected. she has applied for a job so waiting to hear back, but all she does is come home and go straight to her room which is not healthy, so im getting a bit worried about it. none of her friends have the money at the moment to visit, her sister will be out but not until next jan. we offer to take her out with us but again being a teenager she doesnt want to come out with us. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest trestino2002 Posted March 27, 2012 Report Share Posted March 27, 2012 Ouch! Fiona as the step mum of a 16 year old I sympathise. My daughter was the same when she first arrived but has over the last year settled quite a lot. Her school and friends were a large part of that, she goes to Servite, just next door to Tuart College. what is your daughter into? is she sporty etc? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Mandi71 Posted July 8, 2012 Report Share Posted July 8, 2012 Hi we live up NOR and have the same problem. My daughters 17 this year, finds it boring, hasnt made friends, she sits in her room talking to her friends at home and is working all the hours to save up for flights home. Ive tried getting her to join clubs and she went to school for a few months but hated it. I could only get her in Clarkson :-( she hasn't found anyone with similar interests, the girls at school all smoked and drank and partied, she would rather shop, go to movies and eat pizza, which is a good thing, but not when she's spent the last 6 months with no one to do it with but me!! if you want to talk feel free to contact me, maybe we can get them together sometime and see if they hit it off. All Chloe needs is one good friend and I think she'll be ok, but tight now she'd go home tomorrow mandi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fifi69 Posted July 8, 2012 Report Share Posted July 8, 2012 Hi we live up NOR and have the same problem. My daughters 17 this year, finds it boring, hasnt made friends, she sits in her room talking to her friends at home and is working all the hours to save up for flights home. Ive tried getting her to join clubs and she went to school for a few months but hated it. I could only get her in Clarkson :-( she hasn't found anyone with similar interests, the girls at school all smoked and drank and partied, she would rather shop, go to movies and eat pizza, which is a good thing, but not when she's spent the last 6 months with no one to do it with but me!! if you want to talk feel free to contact me, maybe we can get them together sometime and see if they hit it off. All Chloe needs is one good friend and I think she'll be ok, but tight now she'd go home tomorrow mandi I have sent you a pm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest katmac2012 Posted August 4, 2012 Report Share Posted August 4, 2012 I have sent you a pm OMG mandi I am in exactly the same place. My 17 year old has a job just to save for her ticket home. She had completed college at home and did not want to go back into education. She enjoys shopping cinema etc. She will not try anything and is adamant she is going home by Christmas. It is causing lots of stress and she is very down. She also spends everynight on facebook catching up with home. We need to get these girls together at least for some one else to talk to. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Mandi71 Posted August 7, 2012 Report Share Posted August 7, 2012 All I can say is hang in there!! Chloe has had a huge turn around. She's found a full time job in an accountants, she's joined the gym in her lunch break and has started wanting to go out and about. She's happy, full of stories about her day, it's an amazing transformation!! all she needs now are some friends but I'm hoping that'll come next. She's booked a 2 week holiday to the UK but I'm confident she'll come back now, especially now she has a weekly wage. If you want to put them in touch just send me a PM and I'll ask Chloe to get in touch. She was all against 'Internet buddies' but now realises we are all in the same boat and need to help eachother out. Chin up and feel free to get in touch mandi x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anna Posted September 21, 2012 Report Share Posted September 21, 2012 Hi, I hope you don't mind me messaging you, but it appears we have alot in common. I arrived in April, whereas my 16 year old daughter arrived in June after completing her GCSE's in the UK. She too has now found herself a job, which has enabled her to book a return ticket to the UK for a month to see friends and family. Although I feel my daughter has settled relatively well, all things considered, she has stated to me on numerous occasions that she doesn't know how to meet and make new friends over here, she states the people she works with are all very nice, however, much older than her. She also spends all her time at home either on her iPhone, Facebook, Twitter, Skye or xbox live, the joys of technology huh.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Mandi71 Posted September 22, 2012 Report Share Posted September 22, 2012 Hi Anna, I feel for you it's so hard with teenagers. I've felt bad for months for bringing Chloe here away from her friends and family. She's away home in October for 2 weeks and I'm praying to God she comes back :-( Her jobs a joke, they have her cleaning all day rather than doing any adminbut she's stuck in and is looking for something else. She too works with older girls so hasn't made any friends yet. She spends her wages online and her weekends with me bless her. We are only in Tapping so if you want to put them in touch let me know. Heres my email address. Butchera1971@me.com She won't have me 'find friends' for her but I'm sure we could swap Xbox live names or something lol. Keep in touch x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest themanns Posted September 22, 2012 Report Share Posted September 22, 2012 Hi all.. I have made the decision to go back to the UK because I don't think there is enough here for them either.. England has much more variety on your doorstep in my opinion..I think the place is great for under 8s but thats about it. I have 2 under 2 and I really sympathise with you..Some will settle some won't.. I hope it turns around for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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