Cornishpoms Posted April 23, 2013 Report Share Posted April 23, 2013 Need as much advice as possible. My 11 year old daughter really does not want to move. Most days we have tears and emotional outbursts, I really don't know want to do. She's really angry, cross and atotally different child!! Shes due to to start high school in September and she's really looking forward to. We are hoping to be in perth by November. Any advice and tips will be much appreciated. Thank you Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ali Posted April 23, 2013 Report Share Posted April 23, 2013 We had a similar thing - my daugahter was 10 and burst into tear when she heard us talking of going to Aus, said we were making her leave her whole life behind. We acknowledged that we were but that this was something we had decided to do and she would be included in it - there was no options of her staying behind but we made two promises - 1. was that she would finish primary school and 2. We would let her know where things were up to in the process so nothing would be a shock. She too started high school in the September and left in the December. We had secured a rental and been in touch with some schools, the principle got her a pen pal prior to her coming who she chatted to and got to know a little about the school. She had a leaving party and settled in really well here. She's 18 now and just started Uni and is still in contact with some of her primary school friends. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cornishpoms Posted April 23, 2013 Author Report Share Posted April 23, 2013 It's good to hear positive stories. I know she'll be fine, it's just getting though the next 6 months!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ali Posted April 23, 2013 Report Share Posted April 23, 2013 We didn't do it in a harsh way (honest lol), but we did give the message that she didn't really have a choice about it. She actually said that starting HS in the UK made it much easier to start a new school here. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest9824 Posted April 24, 2013 Report Share Posted April 24, 2013 (edited) Need as much advice as possible. My 11 year old daughter really does not want to move. Most days we have tears and emotional outbursts, I really don't know want to do. She's really angry, cross and atotally different child!! Shes due to to start high school in September and she's really looking forward to. We are hoping to be in perth by November. Any advice and tips will be much appreciated. Thank you Hi Cornishpoms, sounds familiar, our daughter was 11 turning 12 when we got here, and reacted the same way. She had just strated High School (!a milestone in any country) settling nicely then we sprung migration on her, together with the hormones and stress of worrying about starting a new school, she was devastated. I find bribery always helps ...one of the things we offered to both girls was the prospect of getting a pet ( which we still haven't done....) but it was a winner.....The upshot is, after 5 years of being here both of my girls are very settled, they have a great social life ( better than ours sometimes) and have even said they are glad they were here in school and not the Uk. I think there is a kids thread on here for the younguns might be worth a look. At the end of the day, it might be tears and tantrums for a while, but once you are here, I'm sure things will get better. There are lots of expats children here who have been in the same position and will no doubt be willing to share their experiences. Good luck. pea Edited April 24, 2013 by guest9824 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stey74 Posted April 24, 2013 Report Share Posted April 24, 2013 Need as much advice as possible. My 11 year old daughter really does not want to move. Most days we have tears and emotional outbursts, I really don't know want to do. She's really angry, cross and atotally different child!! Shes due to to start high school in September and she's really looking forward to. We are hoping to be in perth by November. Any advice and tips will be much appreciated. Thank you Hi, We had same issue, i've got 3 girls 16,14 & 7. We have been here a year and none of them wanted to come. Youngest, Lydia, was ok after about 6 months but still mentions missing her friends. Jess, 14, started to come round after 9 months and Mel whos now 16 has taken a year! They all miss their friends but have met some great ones here, and they ALL love the fact that they can plan weekends without worrying about the weather, my youngest is happiest on beach all day lol. Mel has just started driving. Jess has some mates who she goes shopping with and trips to the beach at weekends. It does get easier, and there are a lot of plus points, its a process, but hopefully she will be fine. Once she starts meeting friends she will start to feel better and to be honest my girls made friends quickly. Have asked them all recently about where they want to be and the preferences is now here! Where abouts are you headed? Cheers Steve Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cornishpoms Posted April 24, 2013 Author Report Share Posted April 24, 2013 Thank you. I keep telling myself I need to toughen up and say it as it is. At the end of the day, we're not going to change our minds and she has to get her head round the idea!! this time last year when we started to discuss the idea of moving she was fine, it was my son who is now 13 that was hating the whole idea. He's now looking forward to going. So I guess there is hope :0) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest9824 Posted April 24, 2013 Report Share Posted April 24, 2013 Well said Cornishpoms, kids are resilient it's us adults that fall to pieces lol.....just stay strong with your partner and I'm sure the kids will come around. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kerry267 Posted April 24, 2013 Report Share Posted April 24, 2013 I really feel for you. I have a 13 year old who (luckily) is excited about the move although she is worried about starting a new school. Maybe we can get them talking as they are going through the same thing? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Hobson Crew Posted April 24, 2013 Report Share Posted April 24, 2013 Hi, we are due to move in June and have two daughters Elle 13 and Molly 11. Molly can't wait to get over there following a holiday we had last year. Elle on the other hand is devastated, settled in school, great group of friends and gets very emotional. Her greatest fear is not making friends, we totally understand her worries but have tried to explain our reasons for moving but doesn't make any difference. Can anyone point me in the direction of the kids thread as I'd like to pass onto Elle and Molly. Good luck everyone! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Brownsx5 Posted April 24, 2013 Report Share Posted April 24, 2013 Things are slightly different here, you would think with all this wonderful weather that you'd never see the kids as they would be out playing about, that's not the case. Saying this we do more as a family eg beach,parks etc. all my children have settled well & have made friends in school. There is always peps wanting to meet up all over Perth so plenty of chances to meet others in the same boat. Just make sure to have a go, if there's a meet GO, if you can arrange one go for it. All my children are content here and have settled really well, so fingers crossed your's will as well. It all just takes time :-) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cornishpoms Posted April 24, 2013 Author Report Share Posted April 24, 2013 Thank you for all the advice. Would like to keep in touch with other on here to meet once we arrive, for my sake as well as my kids!! :0) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kerry267 Posted April 24, 2013 Report Share Posted April 24, 2013 Hi, we are due to move in June and have two daughters Elle 13 and Molly 11. Molly can't wait to get over there following a holiday we had last year. Elle on the other hand is devastated, settled in school, great group of friends and gets very emotional. Her greatest fear is not making friends, we totally understand her worries but have tried to explain our reasons for moving but doesn't make any difference. Can anyone point me in the direction of the kids thread as I'd like to pass onto Elle and Molly. Good luck everyone! Where are you looking to live? We will be moving in July and are looking NOR. My 13 year old would appreciate having other kids her age to talk to who are going through the same thing. I'm up for keeping in contact and arranging a meet up. I think the kids would benefit (and so would I!) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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